Harmonious relationships are not very hard to achieve. That is one finding from one of the many studies about marriage. But the other good news for partners and lovebirds is that if you’re in a great relationship, whether you’re married or not, you can keep that relationship for good by following new activities and behaviors and incorporate them into the relationship. While a lot of experts say that partners need to deal with problems that they face head-on to reduce the tension and anxiety in the relationship, a few recent studies show that adding fresh, positive behavioral patterns to your bond as partners has a more advantageous impact on their happiness.
Here are some ways to deepen your bond with your partner and have a happier, more harmonious relationship.
Acknowledge That Your Partner Is Unique
We often have moments when we wish our partner were richer, more sensitive, sexier, and so on. Before you wish again, examine your expectations and compare them to your reality. Perhaps your expectations have become too unrealistic, and these may lead to constant frustration, which may be the primary reason why most relationships with too high expectations fail. Learn to accept your partner’s pros and cons, including his flaws. Love his perfect imperfection.
Drop Some Nice Words Or Do Small Deeds
Leave a note beside the bed in the morning, like, “Just went to buy some breakfast. Love you.” In the evening, when your partner is busy working on some papers in your home, slip in some Jasmine tea and kiss him to tell him you care. When you’re together, hold hands or give each other a peck on the cheek. These are small gestures that are vital to keeping your bond strong and deep.
Commit Ten Minutes Daily To Connect
Maybe you think you and your partner are effectively communicating because you talk to each other every day. But do you talk profoundly about things that matter, things that create more love and understanding for each other? Happy couples that were interviewed in a study say that they do talk all the time, not about them but different things. This way, they felt that they know each other in four essential aspects: common stressors, important values, friends, and dreams. Committing to talking about things other than yourselves will change your relationship on a deeper level, with more life and a better outlook about the world.
Find Ways To Fall In Love Again And Again
Go on dates that you haven’t tried before, like hiking or biking together, the opera, or going on an overnight trip while the kids are in their grandparents’. Do some couple yoga or paint together. Discover something new about each other and love each other all over again. Don’t take your partner’s talents and skills for granted and be proud of what he can do. Not everybody can do what he can. And tell him how awesome he is, and vice versa. Keep the fire burning.
Your bond is like life itself that needs to be nourished so it can grow productively. The best way to do this is to make positive change together. Even doing some small shifts in roles can spark some excitement in the relationship. For instance, instead of the wife cooking dinner, the husband can offer to do the cooking for a week, polish his culinary skills. You might also want to your favorite bar or restaurant when you were still high school sweethearts. Do something that will cut the routine and avoid boredom. A relationship becomes dull and uninteresting when change or growth is not introduced into it. Do you want real change and excitement? Join a couple’s retreat in the Maldives!
Communication Should Be Healthy
Couples who have been together for a long time agree that good communication skills are what held their bond strong and deep. They didn’t only ask what the other partner needed, but they also told their partner what they really needed.
When this happens in a relationship, your partner doesn’t have to second-guess how you feel about you going out with your friends. You’ll know straightforwardly what you both want and don’t want. Therefore, stress is definitely less. The arguing, the fighting, and the name calling decreases, or disappears. There is only more love, understanding, respect, and passion.