Psychology expert or not, it seems natural to deduce that you wish that the next man you fall in love with is the one. Some women are not scared of voicing it out, considering they have gone through a few relationships, which have all ended in heartbreaks. Meanwhile, others try to put up a chill facade and claim that they are not looking for anything serious, even though they hope deep down that they have made the right choice this time.
The real deal about finding the man that you will want to settle down with years later is that he may not be the ideal guy that you have described to your friends before. It is quite rare for men and women alike to come across their “perfect match.” There are a few lucky souls that have achieved that, but it does not seem to be possible for everyone to be that lucky. Nevertheless, the thought of your ideal man may go away once you meet the right one for you.
Here are some tips to know if you are with the right man now.
1. You Can Be Yourself
When you and your partner have only started dating, it is normal for the two of you to act prim and proper to avoid scaring each other away. You have no idea about what makes one another tick; that’s why you may not want to be too relaxed and give everything away at once. However, the more you meet up with this man, the more you should be able to loosen up and show your true colors. That is how you can figure out if your partner can accept everything about you.
To be specific, the right guy for you will not run towards the other direction once he sees your bare face. He understands when you feel too lazy to cook or even go out on a date. In truth, this man may even prepare a meal for you and play a movie that you love so that you can have a makeshift date at home.
2. You Need Not To Worry About Misunderstandings
I am a firm believer of the idea that both men and women in a relationship should put in enough effort to please each other. For instance, it is not ridiculous for you to always try to look great when you are with your man. You can lavish him with material and immaterial gifts as well from time to time, and no one can criticize you for that. You want to express your feelings to that person, after all.
Nonetheless, when you get too busy at work to do the same things, the right man will not be disappointed if you fail to do such activities as often as before. Since he is aware of your hardships, he may use the opportunity to return the favor by a hundred-fold so that you can feel how special you are in his eyes.
3. You Can Open Up About Your Issues Without Facing Judgment
Being an adult who has had a life of your own before meeting your partner, there’s a chance for you to come across problems here and there. The promotion that you have been dreaming of has been snagged by a colleague, for example, or you have forgotten to send a paper at school and received an F because of that.
Opening up about such failures cannot be easy even if you are already talking to your family and friends. When you are with your man, however, it feels as if the words flow freely out of your system. You mention how upset or embarrassed you are due to what has happened. Although you may not admit it to anyone else, you don’t mind telling your partner that you are to blame for the situation as well. In your hindsight – and based on experience – you know that this man will never judge you.
4. You Are Both Always Willing To Compromise
Some people do not believe that opposite poles attract. They think that this idea has merely been created by fanatics of fictional characters who also happen to be star-crossed lovers. That is especially true for individuals who have recently split with their boyfriend or spouse because of their incompatibilities.
The standing truth, though, is that couples who have more dissimilarities than similarities can stay together if both individuals are willing to compromise. Say, you want to watch The Proposal at home, while your man is into watching NBA live. If he agrees to sit on the couch and watch a rom-com movie even if he cringes when Ryan Reynolds’ naked butt is on screen, then you should go to the games with him. Not every man can make compromises with a woman; the fact that he fulfills his promise should allow you to see that he is a keeper.
Doesn’t it feel good to love and be loved? That is, perhaps the most magical sensation you can ever experience. You can enjoy this feeling more when you know that you are already with the right man.